That’s a question we all would encounter at some point in our lives, but it is also a hard question to answer. It’s such a big question that, as you try to answer, you are hard-pressed to know where to start.
So, how do you “eat an elephant,” so to speak? By cutting it up into pieces.
The elephant is that single, generic question: “Why do I feel so limited?” Cutting up into smaller, bite-sized pieces means asking more than one question and have these questions revolve around specific areas. Ask yourself these questions to enhance your development:
What are my greatest strengths? Make a list. Think about how these strengths have brought you to where you are, and how much further they can take you. Our weaknesses might hold us back, but our strengths can determine how high we can rise. Weaknesses are like a boat anchor while strengths are like the motor.
What am I able to control in my life? Worrying about things that are outside of your control is a waste of time and effort. Don’t tire yourself out with futile engagements. Focus on the aspects you’re able to influence. Apply your thoughts, time, and effort accordingly.
What do I want to stand for? Think about what you want others to remember you by, the legacy you want to leave… and make decisions surrounding that. Live in a manner that would support how you wish to be.
If I could accomplish one great thing in my life, what would it be? You probably have several options for your life, and it’s not always easy to choose. Your heart and mind may not always agree, and the temptation is to go for which one is stronger at the time. Try to keep a balance between what you know and what you feel.
What is the most important skill I’m lacking? Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Our weaknesses are often responsible for limiting our personal growth and success. There are advantages to being well-rounded. Make another list. Look at your areas for improvement and make a plan to work on them little by little.
How do I get in my own way? Anticipate what could go wrong and prepare for it. Gaining something usually means giving something else up. Are you prepared to make that change? It’s not easy to examine this part of ourselves, but the benefit is immense.
If I could talk to my 18-year old self, what would I say? Hindsight is 20/20, but the mistakes you’ve made in the past are probably still occurring. Think about the choices you think you should’ve made as an 18-year old. They will provide insight into your current situation.